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Tuesday, June 10, 2014
My Own Worst Enemy
How many of you beat yourself up
when something does not go your way in life? This self-betrayal could be
anything from saying you are not skinny enough, not pretty enough, not smart enough
and the list goes on. I am guilty of this self-betrayal, and with my
perfectionist traits, I feel like I am my own worst enemy at times. During times
that I am feeling really low, I tend to internalize things and define my worth based
upon what is going on in my life whether it be grades in school or the lives of
others. Peers all around me are getting married and having babies while I am
constantly stressed in nursing school and constantly fighting to stay above
water. The fact of the matter is though everyone is on a different life path
and this is where I am on mine. The question I still have is why do I internalize
events and define my worth on them? It is because I tend to be my own worst
enemy.
The next question that comes to my
mind is why I even do this. Without being selfish and self-centered we should
be our own cheerleaders and cheer ourselves on as opposed to beating ourselves
down, the reality however is a lot of people do tend to tear themselves down
instead of building themselves up. In the world we live in today, more people unfortunately
will try to beat you down so why would we want to do it to ourselves?
Do you tend to build yourself up,
or beat yourself up when something does not go like you wanted it to?
I absolutely adore Idina Menzel and her song, “My Own Worst
Enemy” really speaks to me and actually inspired this post. Enjoy her beautiful
voice below!
So true. It reminds me of the question of why we compare ourselves to others who walk a completely different path than we do. We know not of the path they walk and they know not of the path we walk. Our path is beautiful, no matter how dark and lonely it may feel. I feel that we seek that outside source of encouragement because of a) self-esteem b) social norms that we're programmed into c) other factors that were constantly exposed that sway our minds into believing we somehow are less than or not good enough by a culturally accepted standard. Anywho. Im ranting. Great blog as always!!!
Thanks Danielle! I completely agree with you there are so many external factors that cause us to feel we are not good enough but like you said we have to realize our path is beautiful. <3
I love that Idina Menzel song, I'd never thought about it that way for some reason though!
ReplyDeleteThe song is one of my favorite ones! How did you interpret the song? :)
DeleteSo true. It reminds me of the question of why we compare ourselves to others who walk a completely different path than we do. We know not of the path they walk and they know not of the path we walk. Our path is beautiful, no matter how dark and lonely it may feel. I feel that we seek that outside source of encouragement because of a) self-esteem b) social norms that we're programmed into c) other factors that were constantly exposed that sway our minds into believing we somehow are less than or not good enough by a culturally accepted standard. Anywho. Im ranting. Great blog as always!!!
ReplyDeleteThanks Danielle! I completely agree with you there are so many external factors that cause us to feel we are not good enough but like you said we have to realize our path is beautiful. <3
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