Do you have any flaws? If you answered
no, you would be lying because everyone has them. Flaws are something everyone
has yet doesn’t talk about because they can make us appear less than perfect
and in our world we want to be seen as perfect. This is personified to us when
we are children and only gets reinforced as we get older. Throughout our
schooling years we are told we must study and get great grades so we can get
into the perfect college. While we are in college, we are told we need to be
our best person and should look our best so we can meet the perfect partner.
After we met this perfect partner the list continues to strive to have the
perfect house, perfect job, perfect kids and the list goes on. While it is okay
to have goals and aspirations the problem is that perfection is a fallacy.
There is not one thing on this earth that is perfect, yet on a daily basis we
strive to be perfect and always fall short due to the inability to be perfect. Constantly
striving to be perfect brings feeling of failure, self doubt, anxiety and depressive
thoughts.
I unfortunately have been struggling with the
need to be perfect my whole life and while I am better than I used to be still
find myself trying to attain perfection. The need comes from the desire to be
the best version of yourself however a problem exists when you have already done
your best and still blame yourself for your shortcomings. I remember in
elementary school we used to have a pre-spelling test on Thursdays and if you
spelled all of the words correctly you didn’t have to take the test on Friday.
While I was not a terrible speller I always got at least one word incorrect and
this caused me to have to take the test again while my friends got to play. At
this point in my life I was about eight years old but the fact that I had to
take the test again made me feel as if my classmates were smarter and better
than me due to them simply being better at spelling. This is a terrible burden
for an eight year old to hold, however I lived with it and carried it
throughout my life to the point where I am finally fed up with self doubt and
the need to be perfect. Self doubt and perfection causes us to constantly ask
what we did wrong and how we can get it right next time. It causes us to blame
ourselves for things which are completely out of our control. Finally, it
destroys our spirit and causes us to carry around negative oppressive energy
which eliminates the beauty of the world. This blog has no intention to make
you feel sorry for me and the struggles that I have had in my life but rather
to make you realize that perfection is impossible and that it is okay to make
mistakes in life. You don’t have to ace every test, you are not expected to get
your dream job out of college, and you don’t have to meet a life partner at a
specific time period. It is okay to fail because it will make you learn who you
are and how strong you are despite all of the obstacles in life. So next time
you feel the desire to doubt yourself don’t because giving it your all is
enough. Remember perfection is a fallacy and should be eliminated from our
lives
